Day 135

Peace does not mean an absence of conflicts; differences will always be there. Peace means solving these differences through peaceful means; through dialogue, education, knowledge; and through humane ways.

Dalai Lama

The first time I read this quote, I was struck by how simple and yet profound it was. And, I thought about an artist friend of mine who says that the simplest looking designs are the most difficult to create.

Each of us is a unique individual, with independent thoughts, values and ideas. It is reasonable to hope that there are other people who feel the same way we do. And, it is quite likely that there will be some who do not see things the way we do. The point is, it doesn’t make either of us wrong; it simply makes us different.

I’m reminded of the phrase “agree to disagree”, which is a starting point. If we don’t see things in the same way, we can agree to disagree. From there, we can talk about whatever we disagree on. We can teach each other by sharing our perspectives with them. We can share information that might help them understand our point of view (this still does not mean we have to agree). And, we can treat one another with respect and compassion, regardless of whether or not we agree.

When I enter into a disagreement with someone, I need to remember that no matter the outcome, the other person is entitled to their opinion. When I can let go of the idea that I am right or justified, my ego backs down, and I can be curious, engaged and open to learning. When I come at the disagreement from a place of being right, my ego becomes insistent, judgemental and intractable. This, then, becomes contentious rather than compassionate.

I love the fact that each person I meet has a story to tell. That their story is different than mine. And, that there is learning that I can do, if I am willing to enter into the conversation from Peace.

It seems to me that when we really know ourselves and do not fight who or what we are, we find Inner Peace. And when we practice the same compassion toward others, we can find Peace with our communities. When our communities extend the hand of Peace further out, the possibilities are endless.

Lets take a moment to celebrate differences for what they are – opportunities to reach out and offer our whole selves, in Peace.